Inner Light

Learning self-mastery is the journey of learning how to take full responsibility over your life. Once you achieve self-mastery, you become the person in charge of your life. You are no longer a reactive victim of circumstances and your environment. You are a proactive co-creator of your life and manifestor of your dreams. I feel that there are four key principles that make up this particular path.

1) Commitment to Truth
A commitment to truth encompasses not only being honest with others, but also being honest with yourself. Being honest with yourself means identifying your strengths as well as your weaknesses. This principle also involves living with integrity by being consistent with your values and principles; in other words, walking your talk.

2) Cultivation of Awareness
Be aware of your current reality and how it fits with who you are and who you wish to be. Pay attention to the energies around you and decide if they positively or negatively impact your vision of where you’re going in your life. As you progress through various stages of growth, you should be constantly refining your self-image so that you know what your next step will be.

3) Connection to All
Realize that everyone and everything is connected, and that everything and everyone is connected to Spirit. Because you are part of the Whole, it is important that you grow to be the best person that you can be in order to contribute to the greater good. Nurture feelings of love and gratitude and discover how you can be of service. These are the things that will give you a sense of purpose and well-being.

4) Co-Creator of Your Life
Once you realize your strengths and weaknesses, become aware of your reality and your place in it, and understand that everything is connected, you will better understand that you are the co-creator of your life. You are the master of your emotions and your choices. Self-mastery is about making conscious, proactive decisions about your emotions and choices vs. unconscious, reactive decisions. You are affecting your environment rather than your environment affecting you.

When you start taking full responsibility for your life, you will find that you are more flexible with change and your energy levels are higher. You lose the helplessness that occurs when you’re in “victim” mode and allow life to happen to you rather than you happening to it. Being completely honest with yourself and the people around you eliminates the stress of trying to be someone you’re not. You will feel a greater sense of purpose and will achieve a more positive balance in all areas of your life.

In Linda Goodman’s book, Star Signs, she devotes a whole chapter to lexigramming. Lexigramming is when you take a word and scramble the letters to make other words. For example, the word STOP contains TOP, POT, POST, etc. Linda stated in her book that you can often find hidden meanings to words by lexigramming them. In my name, SHELA, you can find the phrase SHE HEALS, which is what I work to do for people when I coach them. I bet you can see what I’m leading up to, right?

When many gurus talk about the Law of Attraction, they discuss and teach people about the visualizing and feeling aspects only. But, right out there in plain sight is the most important part of the Law of AttrACTION. Yes, it’s action! The words THINK and FEEL aren’t in the word ATTRACTION. While it is important to think positive thoughts and hold positive feelings for whatever you’re trying to manifest, if you don’t take action toward the end goal, you’ll never reach it.

Have you ever heard the saying, “You can’t win if you don’t play the game”? You will never create what you desire if you don’t get in there and play the game. The visualizing and thinking and intentions and affirmations are the playbook. Putting yourself onto the field and playing the game is where all the real work gets done. If you want to create wealth, a great job, a wonderful relationship, you have to *do* something to make it real. You can dream about finding your perfect job all day long, but if you don’t take the action steps necessary to land that perfect job, you’ll never get it.

You’ll find that, as long as you hold the visualization in your mind, and take some action toward creating that vision, the opportunities for more action will flow to you easier and easier. Add the *Action* into the Law of Attraction, and I guarantee you will be on the fast track to manifesting your desires.

Divine Timing is the idea that everything happens at its exact right time. I like to think of it as the time it takes from when I receive an epiphany or inspired thought of where I should go next in my life, to when this thought is manifested into reality. In this modern age of multi-tasking and speedy wireless internet and superhighways, people have gotten used to getting whatever they want whenever they want it.

Sometimes, Spirit(or whatever you call your Higher Power) has different ideas than we do on how long it should take to create what we want. We want things to happen immediately, but the time may simply not be right. There may be some pieces to the puzzle that need to be put into place first. Perhaps there are other people involved in the situation who need to play their parts before your desire can come to fruition. There could be any number of reasons why you cannot manifest what you want right away.

Luckily, there are some things you can do to ease the flow of Divine Timing. You may not necessarily make things happen faster, but you will certainly save yourself some frustration and disappointment.

First, let go of your fears and limiting beliefs. These are all of the “What ifs” and “Yeah buts” that can pervade your thinking as you wait oh so impatiently for your desires to manifest. These negative thoughts can cause you to give up on your dream altogether. Believe that everything is happening as it should.

Second, don’t drop the ball. You have your own part to play in creating your dreams too! Nurture that vision. Feed it with your desire and how you will feel when this happens for you. Take inspired action every day and watch your vision grow into reality.

Third, have faith and trust the process. Surrender all the “Hows” to Spirit and let yourself be guided through each step of the journey. Know in your heart that you will be shown what to do next when the time is right and that the perfect people will come into your life to make your dream happen.

Do these three things and let the Universe and Divine Timing do the rest! The more you resist this process, the longer it will take to make your dreams real, if they happen at all. By giving in and letting things flow, you will enjoy the journey much more.